And so I am free again after wrapping up my research last week. There isn't much time to waste, but there is always enough to catch up with recent stories, even if just a little bit.
Today I happened to come across a video of a rather famous scholar called Azhar Idrus, playing guitar with a comedian(?) in front of a large audience. Reading through the comments, a well known phrase comes to mind; haters will hate. So how do I turn this around? While there are many who applaud the friendly ways of the scholar, there are just as much who keep saying haraam, haraam. And within both sides there are lots that like to write in caps lock, showing just how ignorant they are of the actual effect. Not forgetting to mention the inappropriate ways of writing that can only be interpreted as insults.
So before that, here's another story.
Have you seen the video titled something like this: "facebook parenting for the troubled teen"? I'm not sure of the correct title, but don't correct me. Because that's not the point. What important is the things that come after that. Well I watched the video from head to tail, and I say to myself; the daughter deserves to be scolded, the dad has all the rights to blow up the laptop. That's my opinion, don't correct me. Then I read through the bickering in the comment section. One person was saying "did the girl pay her mother for carrying her in the stomach for 9 months?". That's a good point. But someone just had to retort with "did the girl ask to be carried?". And that took me hours to contemplate.
I kept asking myself; what's wrong with this dude? What is he trying to convey? Is there anyone in the right mind who would even think about asking an unborn baby whether it wants to be born or not? Things like that. I knew it was pointless to argue with someone who has a different opinion, and that everyone is entitled to their own opinions. But I was too curious to leave it as it was. Different as we are, I wanted to know what drove that guy to write such a thing. And the answer I came to was pretty simple.
Imagine this. There were a man and a woman who got married but didn't have much money. They wanted children, but they didn't have money to raise them up all the way through college. So they finally decided among themselves that they will manage somehow to feed their children till junior high; after that the children will be big enough to help out with the household expenses. To the parents, it sound pretty fair. To children, even to me, it sounds pretty selfish. They decided to give birth with the intent to make the children literally pay back for what they spent on them. I mean, look; my parents brought us children up without expecting anything from us even though they themselves have a hard time making ends meet. And that makes me want to pay them back even more. Because they raised me up solely because they love me, not because they wanted to give birth and have fun cooing babies only to make us work when we grow out of the cuteness. But had my parents said they expect us to return the favor, I would get stressed. I will likely ask; if life is that hard, then why even bother giving birth to me?
We are just humans. We want to be loved, not to be indebted by birth.
Today I happened to come across a video of a rather famous scholar called Azhar Idrus, playing guitar with a comedian(?) in front of a large audience. Reading through the comments, a well known phrase comes to mind; haters will hate. So how do I turn this around? While there are many who applaud the friendly ways of the scholar, there are just as much who keep saying haraam, haraam. And within both sides there are lots that like to write in caps lock, showing just how ignorant they are of the actual effect. Not forgetting to mention the inappropriate ways of writing that can only be interpreted as insults.
So before that, here's another story.
Have you seen the video titled something like this: "facebook parenting for the troubled teen"? I'm not sure of the correct title, but don't correct me. Because that's not the point. What important is the things that come after that. Well I watched the video from head to tail, and I say to myself; the daughter deserves to be scolded, the dad has all the rights to blow up the laptop. That's my opinion, don't correct me. Then I read through the bickering in the comment section. One person was saying "did the girl pay her mother for carrying her in the stomach for 9 months?". That's a good point. But someone just had to retort with "did the girl ask to be carried?". And that took me hours to contemplate.
I kept asking myself; what's wrong with this dude? What is he trying to convey? Is there anyone in the right mind who would even think about asking an unborn baby whether it wants to be born or not? Things like that. I knew it was pointless to argue with someone who has a different opinion, and that everyone is entitled to their own opinions. But I was too curious to leave it as it was. Different as we are, I wanted to know what drove that guy to write such a thing. And the answer I came to was pretty simple.
Imagine this. There were a man and a woman who got married but didn't have much money. They wanted children, but they didn't have money to raise them up all the way through college. So they finally decided among themselves that they will manage somehow to feed their children till junior high; after that the children will be big enough to help out with the household expenses. To the parents, it sound pretty fair. To children, even to me, it sounds pretty selfish. They decided to give birth with the intent to make the children literally pay back for what they spent on them. I mean, look; my parents brought us children up without expecting anything from us even though they themselves have a hard time making ends meet. And that makes me want to pay them back even more. Because they raised me up solely because they love me, not because they wanted to give birth and have fun cooing babies only to make us work when we grow out of the cuteness. But had my parents said they expect us to return the favor, I would get stressed. I will likely ask; if life is that hard, then why even bother giving birth to me?
We are just humans. We want to be loved, not to be indebted by birth.
Back to the issue on music. Just like my case with the parenting issue, when differing opinions come across you, take them in no matter how ridiculous you think they are! Even if they seem ridiculous to us, they are perfectly normal to some people. Bickering with caps lock doesn't solve the issue, look from different perspectives. More importantly, don't insult! I just don't understand why haters hate. *cough* I used to be a hater too, but I can't remember how I outgrew it. If I could, maybe I can turn this phenomenon around. Lovers will love. *lmao*
To people who said music is haram AND insulted people with different opinion:
That's your opinion based on what you've heard and what you've been taught. You don't have to keep it to yourself, but you can't force it on others either. You are not wrong, but so are not those who say music is OK. You must understand that there can be more than one truth in this world. Haven't you noticed that in some sects, solat jama and qasar are completely alien to the practicers? Because there is more than one truth. I challenge you to seek the answer to why are there are at least four main different sects in Islam.
To people who write in caps lock:
Stop it.
To people who insult regardless of opinion:
It gets you nowhere. Insulting is not the way of the prophet. God is always watching you and is always forgiving you, so why don't you forgive others who don't agree with you?
To people not mentioned above:
I salute your manners and patience. OTL Keep up the good work. The world will never be filled with people like you because haters will hate, but let's increase the love and understanding so they overcome the haters. My new dream is to have the meme "lovers will love" become so viral that haters will actually decide to join the club. *grin*
I'm sure a lot of us know Kudo Shinichi's favorite phrase; there can only be one truth. Half true. There is only one truth, but only one knows the complete truth. As for us mere humans with different personalities each, there are many truths so we can adapt. I'm not forcing you to believe, I'm encouraging you to explore the way mysteries work. Mysteries such as, the human mind. Kudos. *cough*
